Some parents think they love their children and that they express that love in the right way.
If we asked someone, what is the evidence of this love?

 They will say with evidence that they provide them with a good allowance every morning and educate them in the best schools.

 A mother might say that she is with her child all the time, watching him at all times and protecting him from all danger. However, when she goes with him to amusement parks, she does not let him ride anything except the rides that she chooses for him, claiming that by doing so she is expressing her love for him and protecting him.
If we try to extrapolate the outcomes of this type of love and this mechanism in upbringing, we will find that it is one of two cases: either the son grows up fearful, dependent, and comfortable with this type of protection, or he grows up angry at these restrictions, rebelling against them and against love if it is in this manner.
In the dictionary of emotion: Peace does not require land! 

There is another type of upbringing that follows the “land for peace principle” or what is called conditional love. One of the most prominent examples of this is: “I will not love you if you do not do your homework,” “If you do not eat your breakfast, I will not kiss you,” and “If I do not get a good mark on the test, I will not be your father. I will become the father of Ahmed, the neighbor’s son.”

In such a case, the son will initially seek to gain the approval of his father and mother and enjoy their love, and he will certainly be keen on the morning and evening kisses, but once the matter is repeated frequently and the demands are beyond the son’s ability, then he will say to them, “May Ahmed, the neighbor’s son, enjoy your love, and no one will weep over him.”

Logic alone doesn't always work!

On the other hand, dealing with reason is often useless if it is not supported by emotion. Your child may achieve the highest grade in the class in mathematics if he is afraid of your reprimand, but in return, he will not think beyond that, and will not try to break the rule to discover a new solution to the problem!

Such examples confirm the need to reformulate the concept of emotion and its role in raising children in a correct way that is able to comprehend the external environment around them and interact with it more creatively and skillfully. An authoritarian attachment to children will not teach them anything, and dry distance will always make them feel a lack of confidence and fear of everything around them. But raising children with emotion, on the other hand, if accompanied by some firmness, develops the child’s social skills, attracts attention, creates meaning, and mobilizes forces and desires to achieve the goals dictated by reason and logic.
Love alone is not enough if it remains silent!

The majority undoubtedly love their children, so love itself is not the problem, but rather the problem lies in the philosophy of each of them in expressing that love and their ability to communicate it. And since a person only perceives what he sees, the son will not understand that love and that emotion unless he feels it.

Therefore, practicing the ABCs of love by parents is necessary to reach a refined language of love and a creative educational atmosphere. These ABCs are: the word of love, the look of love, the bite of love, the touch of love, the blanket of love, the embrace of love, the kiss of love, and the smile of love.

What prevents a father or mother from saying to their child, “I love you, my son,” and what prevents them from looking at them with love, feeding them with their own hands, and covering them when evening comes?

Someone might say, "My son is asleep and he will not realize it," but in reality, the son will wake up filled with the feelings that his father has deposited in him in the evening. The effect of that blanket is no less than the effect of a smile of love and a kiss of love. There is no doubt that they have a magical effect in positive motivation, and there is no doubt that they are the truest expression of what souls harbor. Otherwise, the Noble Messenger would not have denounced the Bedouin Al-Aqra' bin Habis, who said when he saw the Messenger kissing one of his two grandsons, either Al-Hassan or Al-Hussein, "Do you kiss your children?!! By God, I have ten children and I have never kissed a single one of them!!" The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to him, "Do I have the power to prevent God from removing mercy from your heart?"

In addition, the language of dialogue plays a supporting role to the language of love. Your dialogue with your son will mean to him that you love him, care about him, and respect his personality and opinion, which will make him more fluent, flexible, and open-minded. This, as is confirmed and known, is one of the methods that stimulate creativity.
But when the father talks to his son, he should adhere to the aforementioned ABCs of love. He should not forget the word love, “My beloved, I love you - My beloved, your opinion is good, better than mine.” He should not forget to sit next to him exactly as the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to do, as he would “stick his knees to the knees of the one he was talking to, and he would put his hands on the thighs of the one he was talking to, and he would lean on him completely.” It has now been proven that mere touching makes the feeling of affection and warmth of the relationship rise to the highest levels. So if I want to talk to my son or advise him, we should not sit in two places that are far apart from him, because if I sit in a place far from him, I will be forced to raise my voice [and raising my voice will alienate him from me].

There are other ideas that can mend any emotional rift and restore the beautiful flow of affection, such as sticking an apology card on a wall if you misunderstood your son one day. Or giving him a gift as a token of love and friendship when you are away from him for a long time for work.

If you sense a sudden gap or a problem that he is trying to hide, you should try to take him on a trip with you alone, or share a hobby with him, such as horse riding, for example, and go to the club to practice it together. Doing this will make him feel comfortable and confident, and he will be honest with you about what he has hidden from you.
 
Such alphabets are enough to give the son a sense of comfort, push him to give, and motivate him to think, produce, and accomplish, and thus give him the confidence that helps him look beyond things and think beyond the limits of the familiar to come up with unprecedented creative production.